Popping the Question: What You Need to Know


So, you’re ready to get married again? Congratulations on moving on so efficiently. But the thing is, some people find it hard to do a single proposal, let alone two! This time you’re going to be a little older and a little wiser, so here are some tips for your second proposal. Here’s to hoping it goes better than the first.

Do Not Mention Your Previous Marriage

Now, this first piece of advice might seem quite obvious, but actually it’s the kind of mistake a lot of people make. Even if you’re mentioning it in the context of “This is so much more important to me than my last proposal”. Stop!

While this person is about to become your marital spouse and you may have had one before, you shouldn’t really be mentioning them in any comparative terms. Your new partner needs to know that they fill a unique gap in your life and that they are not merely replacement for somebody else.

Be Unique

Another thing to definitely avoid: proposing in the same way as you did last time. This is the sort of thing which could really upset somebody, if they found out. This is completely new and if you did something unusual or extravagant last time, don’t do the same again.

Try and think about something which is unique to your relationship. How can you encapsulate that in a special proposal? Often the nicest ideas involve making something, because doing that means that it will definitely be unique and they’ll definitely have something to remember. Ideas include:

Once that’s been decided, you’ll need to start thinking about the ring too. You might like to go for a premium choice, because something like that would really be cherished forever, but even a very basic engagement ring will do the job, which leads us to our next point…

Remember the Important Thing

The important thing to remember is that you are proposing to this person because you love them and want to spend the rest of your life with them. This is the important thing. Yes, it can be nice to arrange a nice, fancy proposal, but you’re about to be spending your life with this person and that’s the only thing that matters when it comes to proposals.

Doing it for the second time, you may wary or anxious as you remember what happened with your last marriage. You have nothing to worry about. Every new experience teaches us something and we’re always developing as people. Think of it in a vacuum: you want to spend your life with this person and just because one marriage has ended, it doesn’t mean another will.

If you did have any concerns about your second proposal and what you were suppose to do for it, this has hopefully given you some level of reassurance. Don’t let the past affect the present. Move forward with what you want to do and propose in whatever way is best for your relationship. Keep all of these positive thoughts in mind and this is sure to go well. Have you been married more than once? How did you feel about your second proposal?

By Hollie Jones

Hollie is a co-writer for the Hollie and the Ivy blog and works as a freelancer writer as well. She is weddings are one of her many passions and she likes to sure her knowledge with anybody who’s willing to listen. She hopes that her articles are able to inspire or help people.

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