Your first wedding is usually a stressful, time-consuming affair. It’s usually super-expensive and it never goes as you planned it. So now you’re getting married again, you have a real opportunity to make sure it goes exactly as you want it to. Second weddings are usually the complete opposite of first weddings. They are usually laid-back, more casual, cheaper and shorter. Still, organizing this slightly more casual celebration can be time-consuming. In order to make the most of the time you have then, you’re going to have to keep calm.
Single track mind
Weddings don’t exist in a vacuum; instead, they live in your mind and share the same space as everything else that’s going on in your busy life. Worrying about bills you have to pay, promises you have to keep, and how many pieces of fruit and veg you’re having a day is already enough to make any person have a mental breakdown. Add to that the stress of planning a wedding, and you have yourself a recipe for disaster. The answer to this problem is to compartmentalize your mind. Set aside several hours a day as “Wedding Time”, and in this time you are only allowed to focus your attention on wedding-related tasks. Similarly, outside of this time, you’re not allowed to even think of weddings. That’s “Wedding Time” thinking. By distributing your time like this, you’ll stop yourself from flitting between thoughts and allow yourself to be more focussed throughout the day; this will inevitably lead to you staying calmer in a very stressful time in your life.
There is quite a lot of truth in the old adage that writing down your thoughts into lists will help you through busy times. One of the busiest times in your life is obviously the time leading up to your wedding, so list-writing could never be more relevant. The way to do this is write out every single thing you need to do every day, no matter how big or small the task is. Similarly, keep the list with you at all times so that you can update it. By acknowledging everything you need to do, there’s more chance that you’ll confront it throughout that day and actually make positive headway on it. If you want to do this the twenty first century way, you could plan your wedding online and keep tabs that way, which will simplify your life significantly!