Second Wedding Invitation Etiquette
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All wedding invitations can be issued verbally for informal events, engraved on heavy card stock for very formal events, and there is an endless variety of choices for semi formal events. Second wedding invitations are no different. The more formal your wedding, the more formal your invitation. Similar to first wedding invitations, your second wedding invitation would also reflect the hosts of the event. |
Sample Wording for your invitations:
Frequently Asked Questions
Destination Wedding Invitation Etiquette
Question: This is my second wedding and my fiancé and I are planning a destination wedding. I sent my Save the Date cards and some of my guests have stated that they cannot attend. Should I send these people formal invitations?
Reply: We always send invitations to everyone for whom we send Save the Date cards. Sometimes plans change. Even if you hadn’t sent Save the Date cards, you would still send invitations to everyone you want to share in your day no matter if you thought they could attend or no. People can surprise you. It is always best to give them the choice of whether or not they wish to attend.
No Gifts Please:
Question: My fiancé and I are in our forties and have both been married before. We really don’t need anything. How can we state on our invitations that we would rather not receive gifts? Can we simply write, “No Gifts Please”?
Reply: I’m sorry; we don’t mention gifts on our wedding invitations. Any mention of gifts implies that we were expecting them. The best method of relaying your preferences is by ‘word of mouth’ and on a personal wedding web site. These are very simple to create and can share your love story with all.
Paying Means Hosting
Question: This is my second wedding and my fiancés third, so we are paying for our wedding. How do we word the invitations? Should it be worded so that is appears as if my parents are hosting the wedding? I’m not sure what to do.
Reply: It is entirely your choice. If you want to assert that your parents are hosting and they agree, then you may use the traditional form. However, many couples prefer to word their invitations as if they are hosting their weddings: The honour of your presence is requested at the marriage of bride and groom… or, Bride and Groom invite you to share… .
Children Sending Second Wedding Invitations
Question: This is my second wedding and my children want to host my wedding. Can they issue my invitations? How is this done?
Reply: This is a very sweet way to begin your new lives together. Your children’s names would be listed first on your invitation from the oldest to the youngest. If your fiancé has children who wish to co-host, their names would be listed under your children’s names from oldest to youngest.
Sending Wedding Invitations: Email or handwritten?
Question: This is my second wedding and my fiancé and I want a small, informal affair. May I email or handwrite my wedding invitations? I want to keep our expenses low.
Reply: You may send any type of invitation you wish. Emailing your wedding invitations may not be your best choice though. Snail mail is always more intimate. Yet, verbally inviting your guests is also acceptable, personal, intimate, and free
Information Provided by Rebecca Black of Etiquette Now |
