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Widow and close relationship with first in-laws

joycatcp
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Widow and close relationship with first in-laws

Hello. This is my first posting and may not be the last. My first husband died unexpectedly when we were both 27. I have a very close relationship with my in-laws, almost a parent-child relationship. We have been each other's rock after the death of my husband - their son. I am now planning on remarrying in six months to a gem of a man. My husband-to-be, who is a dream come true for me, and I are having difficulty with a few things. My fiance' actually asked my in-laws for my hand-in-marriage before he asked my parents, which was very acceptable to both my parents. I asked my mother-in-law to be my Personal Attendant, she said "Yes". I also, with my father's blessing, asked my father-in-law to walk down the isle with my father and me. My father-in-law is uncertain if he will do this or not, which I have no plans in pressuring him because I realize how difficult this is for him. With all of this said, I would like to acknowledge my in-laws in our wedding program. I do not believe that they should be listed with my mother and father under Bride's Parents. My fiance is O.K. with acknowledging them in the wedding program, but unsure of the most appropriate way. Would it be funny if we listed my mother and father under Bride's Parents and underneath Bride's In-laws. I realize it probably looks funny, but the truth is they are my in-laws and will always be my in-laws. I am unsure how to address them in the program without it looking horribly funny, making guest uncomfortable, and disrespectful. HELP Thank you!

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Re: [joycatcp] Widow and close relationship with first in-laws [In reply to]

Dear Joycatcp,

Listing them as your in-laws would be confusing to those who don't know them. It may be better to just list them as special friends.

Best wishes,
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
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