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Father-in-law wants to remarry

Jen s
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Father-in-law wants to remarry

Overview: My father-in-law is 66. My mother in law passed away very quickly Jan. 2006. We are in partnership w/farming w/my father in law and 2 other sons. There are 4 daughters all grown and have families of their own-but don't farm w/us. The boys (all 3 farm w/dad) think that dad having a girl friend is GREAT!! Since we farmed w/dad, the sons see dad 24/7 and see he a different person, since he has had this "female" friend in his life. He picks up the house, makes some of his own meal, etc. just Generally Happier!! which is great for us who see him on a daily basis.

Well, last week, he told my husband(the oldest boy) and myself, and the oldest daughter, that he wants to marry his friend and they have talked about it-and would do so after the first of the year-2009-start the new year out with a new start!!]

We are so happy for him. She is a great woman-person...

Problem....her husband has only been gone since Jan 2, 2008-and they think it is to fast for her-now according to my father in law and his friend-they have told us that her family is so happy for both of them...

How can I and my husband be a positive mediator-when the girls and dad on seperate times ask us our opinion without being cold towards the death of our mother(in-law) or our dad's friends husband and respectful to their memories.

HELP!!!

Partner4Success
SOCIAL WORKER

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Re: [Jen s] Father-in-law wants to remarry [In reply to]

I'm sorry but I couldn't understand your question. Can you please clarify? Who are the "girls"? It sounds like everyone is ok with this, but then at the end you made it sound like some people in the family have some reservations.

Thank you!
Alyssa Johnson - Clinical social worker.
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Jen s
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Re: [Jen s] Father-in-law wants to remarry [In reply to]

I am sorry I didn't make myself clear...there are 7 children 4 for them are okay with it-over the weekend the 3 that aren't have made their dad feel badly about it and want him to wait to get married until June or July of 09...why should he listen? the 4 that are great with it-told him we would drive them to the church...

Jen S.