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Announcing remarriage to those not invited

jz2206
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Announcing remarriage to those not invited

I'm a widow about to re-marry, and my fiance and I have decided to have a small ceremony in Cancun with immediate family and close friends only. My mother is concerned that my extended family will feel hurt that they're not invited, and is wondering how to tell them I'm re-marrying but they're not invited. Is there a tactful way to announce my remarriage to those we're not inviting to the ceremony?

the_admin
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Post #2 of 6 (12691 views)

Re: [jz2206] Announcing remarriage to those not invited [In reply to]

Congratulations on finding love again.

Don't worry, many encore weddings take place in a destination so you can simply send out announcements as soon as you are back from your wedding. Try wording the wedding announcement like this:

BRIDE'S NAME
and
GROOM'S NAME
joyfully announce their marriage
that took place on
DATE
in a private ceremony
in LOCATION

Although we couldn't
have you there in person,
you were with us in our
thoughts and prayers
We look forward to celebrating
our happiness with
you in the near future

Enjoy Cancun.
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jea217
Novice

Post #3 of 6 (6910 views)

Re: [jz2206] Announcing remarriage to those not invited [In reply to]

Thats a good question, I wanted to keep my wedding to immediate family only. Now it seems like my former in-laws want to attend. I was never really close to them and i think I would feel akward with them being there. So I just told everyone that it was going to be immediate family only.

Unfortuately my wedding is going to be local.

How did it go?

the_admin
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Post #4 of 6 (6861 views)

Re: [jea217] Announcing remarriage to those not invited [In reply to]

There is no reason why you have to invite your in-laws; even if you have their grandchildren in your custody.

If they contact you with regard to why they were not invited simply let them know that it would be too painful and you want to have a fresh start.
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edselone
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Post #5 of 6 (6700 views)

Re: [jz2206] Announcing remarriage to those not invited [In reply to]

My husband to be and I live in different states. We are having the wedding and a reception here in my state. Then, after the wedding, my son and I are moving to his state. We are having a reception there for his friends and family the following weekend. When we send out the invitations, we will be sending out reception cards to the people in his state that weren't invited to the wedding. Neither one of us is expecting any hurt feelings as we are accomadating everybody. Wink

(This post was edited by the_admin on May 15, 2005, 11:22 AM)

the_admin
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Post #6 of 6 (6684 views)

Re: [edselone] Announcing remarriage to those not invited [In reply to]

Just to be clear...Reception invitatioins should be sent only to those actually invited to the reception. Wedding announcements are sent to anyone not being invited to the wedding.
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