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What do you call this, vow renewal or wedding?? HELP!!

grafxace
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What do you call this, vow renewal or wedding?? HELP!!

I need advise and suggestions. My daughter and her now husband had a civil ceremony (a room and a judge) before he was sent over for deployment to the Persian Gulf. They were scared and really wanted to be married before he left. Only a very few friends and myself knew about this. They were planning a wedding upon his return however some of the family found out and a small feud erupted. So they told everyone what they did but also said they still want to do the traditional wedding/reception at a date they choose. I know this is rather non conventional but who says it has to be one way? Anyway she got pregnant and just had the baby a week ago. They had set a date for this June 2005. Now the big problem is my husband - her father. He feels she does not deserve a wedding as she already had one, in his eyes. This hurts my daughter and really puts me in a bad position.

So, if we go ahead with plans for the date - is this a renewal, their actual wedding or what? Has anyone ever known of a couple who has done this? I think the two of them deserve a nice (not fancy) ceremony to honor their marriage. He would like a church involved but is not against suggestions if that is not appropriate. Also is it more normal to feel like my husband, he swears no one will come because this is only a renewal and means nothing. Or in this age of odd weddings etc is my view more modern and with the times. I just don't understand the problem - I see two people who love each other and want what ever other couple wants! The day they were made legal man and wife was very uneventful and quick. There was nothing except a quick do you, yes okay you're married now!

Anyone with ides please help....I feel exasperated and caught in the middle.

the_admin
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Re: [grafxace] What do you call this, vow renewal or wedding?? HELP!! [In reply to]

Dear Exasperated:

No reason for stress...this would be a renewal of vows ceremony and it is absolutely acceptable! Your daughter and son in law have every right to renew their vows with their family present and even to enjoy a celebration of their love afterwards.

Please tell them to go right ahead and plan it and tell your husband to visit our page on renewing wedding vows so he can see that couples are doing this more and more. He is lucky to have the opportunity to see his daughter celebrate her love for her husband since he is now home, safe and sound. Please thank him for helping to defend our country.

Enjoy!
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