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WEDDING REDO??

LILYS_MOM
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WEDDING REDO??

My husband and I were married a little over a year ago. What was supposed to be my perfect day was ruined. The ceremony was not what I had pictured. My father-in-law officiated the ceremony and told me he would use "traditional vows". Instead, he used words such as "obey" and my husband and I didn't even exchange vows. Then my mother-in-law got upset about decorations at the reception, and when my mother tried to calm her down, she started calling my family and me names. She made a big scene, and I was too upset to continue with the reception. To top it off, my cake fell over. Also, I was 3 months pregnant at the time. We didn't get to have our first dance, cut our cake, or any of the traditional wedding things. My husband and I want to redo the whole wedding. We just don't really know how to go about it. My question is how do I word the invitations?? How do I go abou the whole wedding? I hope you can help me! Any advice would help! Thanks!

Etiquette Now
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Re: [LILYS_MOM] WEDDING REDO?? [In reply to]

Dear Married,

I'm sorry, but you won't be able to have a second wedding because you are already married. You can have a vow renewal, which is also called a reaffirmation. There is a plethora of information about vow renewals right here on page: http://www.gettingremarried.com/vow_renewal_etiquette.html Here you should find answers to all of your questions.

About your invitations, these would be invitations to a vow renewal ceremony. It could look like this:

The honour of your presence is requested

at the renewal of the wedding vows of

Mr. and Mrs. You

Date

Time

Location

Best wishes,
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
Etiquette Now
http://www.etiquettenow.com