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Vow Renewal Ceremony for 10th Anniversary with Ring Bearer

HawaiitoLV
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Vow Renewal Ceremony for 10th Anniversary with Ring Bearer

My husband & I are planning a "formal" 10th anniversary party with a vow renewal. We were married by a justice of the peace in 1997 (we had actually planned a big wedding; paid deposits, etc. but the stress almost drove us apart, so we decided to elope). I'd like to know if it would be ok to have our son (he'll be 6 years old) act as ring-bearer (we're buying new rings to commemorate our 10 years together) - or does that seem to follow too closely to a marriage ceremony? Also, is it proper to have renew our vows at our formal anniversary party?

Thank you so much for any quidance!

(This post was edited by the_admin on Aug 26, 2005, 12:34 PM)

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Re: [HawaiitoLV] Vow Renewal Ceremony [In reply to]

Dear 10th,

Including a ring bearer is on the cusp of mirroring a wedding. But, he is your son and we want to include our children in these ceremonies. Perhaps he can walk with the both of you. However, even if he walked up an aisle similarly to a wedding, as long as you didn't have attendants it wouldn't appear as if it were a wedding. So, I think we are fine with this.

Six? He will be very cute.

Yes! A vow renewal during a formal anniversary party is very appropriate.

Congratulations!
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
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Re: [Et.byRebecca] Vow Renewal Ceremony [In reply to]

He and my daughter (8) will be escorting my husband & I toward the minister, and we are not having attendants, so there won't be a "procession". Thank you for the advice! Smile

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Re: [HawaiitoLV] Vow Renewal Ceremony for 10th Anniversary with Ring Bearer [In reply to]

Perfect!
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
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