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Should we schedule our vow renewal for our anniversary date?

ennieja
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Should we schedule our vow renewal for our anniversary date?

Should we schedule our vow renewal for our anniversary date? See, my sister-in-law got married the day before our first anniversary. I feel like my anniversary in now in her shadow and not as special as it should be for us. She used a lot of my ideas in her wedding. I was wondering if we could choose another date for our vow renewal like in Dec. This would have been the month my baby girl would have been born. We lost her in Aug. I don't want the grand renewal ceremony. We had a nice wedding performed by a Chaplin in a little reception hall. We would like to renew in our church where we live now with some of our church family along with our friends and family. Is this ok or should I just deal with my original date to renew our vows. Thanks! Unsure

(This post was edited by the_admin on Dec 5, 2005, 2:24 PM)

the_admin
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Re: [ennieja] Should we schedule our vow renewal for our anniversary date? [In reply to]

Dear ennieja:

It's too bad that you feel that your inlaws anniversary would overshadow your own wedding anniversary. I'd like to encourage you to discuss these feelings with your husband and make an effort to do something special for yourselves on this date. After all -- this is your anniversary and just because your inlaws have a date nearby should not spoil the meaning of the day or the love you share.

Now -- on to your answer.

A vow renewal can be performed at anytime. It does not have to be scheduled on the original wedding date (your anniversary date). Renew your vows whenever you feel is the best time for the two of you and be sure you are doing it for the right reasons. Try to focus on you and your husband, your relationship and love and leave the others out of the equation.

Perhaps you can meet with your church representative. They can help you plan the renewal (or blessing of your marriage in church), and offer some guidance.

I am sorry for your loss.
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