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Renewing Vows 5 years later..Is that OK?

hturner
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Renewing Vows 5 years later..Is that OK?

My husband and I were married by a JOP 4 years ago. We had just lost our first child together to miscarriage and thought just getting married would bridge some kind of gap. We've had a blessed and loving marriage but still feel we missed the big party with family and friends. Is it OK to go back and have the magical wedding now?

Thanks for your input!

Heather

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Re: [hturner] Renewing Vows 5 years later..Is that OK? [In reply to]

Dear Heather,

Yes. You can definitely have a renewal of your wedding vows. This is something to celebrate. You are saying today that you two love each other as much today as yesterday in front of everyone you love--this is the focus.

It is a bit different than a wedding, but not much. It is best to keep it just a tad less elaborate. But, you may have the dress and the party after. Your dad wouldn't walk you down the aisle. Someone may, you may walk alone, or you and your husband could walk in from the sides of the alter toward each other--no procession.

The reception is more like an anniversary party because you wouldn't have most of the traditional reception components. But, it can still be a celebration of your marriage.

There are many wonderful books to help you plan. One of the easiest to read and is a great resource is The Bride's Book of Etiquette.

You could also get information from this article about Renewing your Vows: http://www.gettingremarried.com/renewing_wedding_vows.html

Congratulations.
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
Etiquette Now
http://www.etiquettenow.com

(This post was edited by Et.byRebecca on May 27, 2005, 5:24 PM)