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Private vow renewal ceremony and more guests at the party to follow?

abbilolo
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Private vow renewal ceremony and more guests at the party to follow?

My husband and I got married VERY young. I was 19 and pretty much let my Mom plan the whole thing. We have been married 6yrs and have been through a lot including a separation. We both want to renew our vows probably at the 10yr mark and I have been wondering about it and thinking about it and found this site which has been very helpful. My question is simple and I think the answer may very well be "do what you want" but I just wondered if there was any precedent. I am a private person about some things and don't really look forward to standing up in front of an entire room of people for this. Is it rude or considered rude to have a VERY private "ceremony" with just he and I and our children (maybe our parents maybe not) and then have a bigger "reception" after with others? More of an Anniversary Party than anything else, but I think for us and our 2 children it would be special to really put out there our love and commitment to each other (family commitment that could include the children).

Any thoughts??

(This post was edited by the_admin on Jan 19, 2007, 8:50 AM)

the_admin
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Re: [abbilolo] Private vow renewal ceremony and more guests at the party to follow? [In reply to]

You're right! Inviting some guests to a ceremony and then more to a party to follow is perfectly acceptable. It is only when you invite guests to a ceremony and then not to the party which is inappropriate.

By the way, you don't have to wait until a significant anniversary. Renew your vows when it seems right for you.

Congratulations on your good instincts and your successful marriage.
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