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10 yr vow renewal

My husband and I are planing on renewing our vows in 2 years for our 10th Anniversary. When we got married it was in a park with the Mayor of our town preforming the ceremony.

We would like to get married in a Church. Just a simple ceremony but since I did not wear my wedding dress for the park wedding I Want to wear it for our ceremony and have the Church Wedding we wanted but with family disagreements we had the park ceremony instead dressed very informally.

We would like to have our daughter be in the wedding as welll as close family members. I do not see why we cannot have the Wedding Ceremony we did not have....

After all it is the Wedding that we did not have....

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Re: [very confused] 10 yr vow renewal [In reply to]

Can you reword the second paragraph to clarify?
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very confused
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Re: [the_admin] 10 yr vow renewal [In reply to]

When my husband I originally got married we were married in the Park by the Mayor of our city. We both did not wear Wedding attire as it was just a Park Wedding.

We decided to marry in that setting because of differences of opinion between us and our famlies. When we got Married we said that for our 10th Anniversary we would get renew our vows and have the Church Wedding that we did not have.

I have my wedding dress that I did not wear at my original Wedding and I would Love to wear it when we renew our vows.

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Re: [very confused] 10 yr vow renewal [In reply to]

Dear Confused,

I'm a bit confused too. You are married, but you want a wedding. You have already wedded, even if it wasn't the ceremony you wanted.

We have very many posts concerning this very issue. Many people didn't have the ceremony they wanted for various reasons. But, it is all about choices. Once you are married, you are.

So, if you want to have a ceremony, it would be a vow renewal. If you are inviting guests, you are a host and the event should appear proper or your guests may not feel comfortable.

It is probably best to read our many posts concerning this so perhaps you will see why people expect this ceremony to be something that does not mirror a wedding. Also, please read more about vow renewal etiquette.

Including children is definitely what the vow renewal ceremony is about--including those in your life who have enriched your marriage. Including close family is as well, but not as attendants. There are no attendants for the vow renewal.

Please plan well.

Best wishes,
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
Etiquette Now
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