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beth56
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weird situation

Hi. I'm getting married for the third time, my fiance his 2nd. We're both 50 and walking down the aisle together with my 2 children, a boy and a girl, standing with us for the ceremony. We want to recognize a best man in some way, although we don't really want him standing with us. I thought since my fiance doesn't have parents that are alive, maybe the best man could come in after my mother is seated and sit in the first row on the groom's side. My fiance wants the best man to wear a tux also, so he stands out. We've asked him to meet and greet people, carry the rings for us, and give a toast at the reception. Does this sound weird? Any other ideas?

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Re: [beth56] weird situation [In reply to]

Dear Weird Situation,

I honestly don't know how this would work because in essense you do not have a best man. He isn't standing with you and isn't walking in the procession. It would appear as if he is your fiance's father if he comes in after your mother is seated and sits in the front row. Although, your mother should be seated last.

If you are making all of this up as you go, then you can create any kind of new tradition you wish. But, I wouldn't know what you can do with all of this for it to be viewed as traditional. Perhaps it would be best for him not to be called a best man. You are creating a new role for a special person. It would probably be best to create a new title for this person as well.

Best wishes,
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
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