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severine2andrew
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wedding etiquette advice

Hi everyone, this is a complicated one but I'll do my best to break it down...I would really appreciate some advice...

3 1/2 years ago my husband and I were quickly married in a civil ceremony in order for me to stay with him in his home country. We had previously hoped for a church wedding but we took the easier way out.

We always said we would have a wedding at a later date and as the time rolls by I regret more and more letting each year pass without having done it. Each wedding we attend my husband says "I would have done this differently..." or "I like that...I would have wanted that too." He loves weddings and family/friend gatherings just as much as I do.

This is my second marriage, though the first time I was married in an outdoor ceremony by a family friend who is a justice of the peace. This is my husband's first marriage though and we both are aching to be wed in church and have our union blessed in front of family and friends.

Ok, here it is...

Can I wear white? What about attendants? Do we include a "No gifts, please" card with the invitations or let people decide for themselves? At our marriage ceremony and subsequent dinner, which our friends (about 15) graciously paid for themselves, we specified "No gifts" because we had hoped so much to have a wedding the year after...but life happens and we decided we would rather have a baby first...no regrets there, but we're still feeling like we've missed out on something important.

What other etiquette things am I missing? On the invitations should we call it a wedding? A blessing? A renewal of vows? Am I being too manic about this or are there really rules I should be following?

Help!

(This post was edited by the_admin on May 4, 2004, 4:57 PM)

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(This post was edited by the_admin on May 4, 2004, 4:57 PM)