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family only wedding re-enactment at reception?

jus1jenn88
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family only wedding re-enactment at reception?

My fiance and I are having a family only wedding in NY (my second marriage, first wedding- his first marriage/ wedding). We're only having MOH & Best Man in wedding party. We're going to have a small sit down dinner reception for the family but we're trying to keep it from being a full blown reception due to $$ matters. Do you think anyone would be offended by just an elegant dinner w/ some cocktails and cake?

Also, Our "full blown reception" will be the following weekend where we live in Va. We're inviting our friends (from all over the country) and watned to "re-enact" our wedding (or is it a vow renewal??) w/ *FULL* wedding party (MOH, Bridesmaids & Best man & groomsmen) so no one feels left out... since our close friends want to "see" us get married....

Does this sound 'ok'?

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Re: [jus1jenn88] family only wedding, "re-enactment" @ reception? [In reply to]

Dear Re-enactment,

It would be a vow renewal and really should be planned carefully so your friends do not feel as if you are hosting a gift giving event for yourself. So, the attendants you used for your wedding would be fine, but to include new ones for a vow renewal is not appropriate. Additionally, a vow renewal shouldn't mirror a wedding. So, re-enacting the entire event may not be viewed positively. Many couples just play a video/DVD of their ceremony for their reception guests. This way their guests can see the couple marrying. Your film could be played on a large blank wall. It is quite nice.

Please read our article concerning vow renewals.

Hosting a small sit down dinner reception is fine. I really can't imagine anyone being offended with this. It is a nice gesture.

Best wishes,
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
Etiquette Now
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