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dirnbee
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Wedding Gift Etiquette

My good friend is getting married for the 2nd time. On the invitation they requested no gifts be given, but we feel awkward not bringing a check. What would you suggest?

Etiquette Now
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Post #2 of 4 (8692 views)

Re: [dirnbee] Wedding Gift Etiquette [In reply to]

When a person says 'no gifts' they really mean it. However, if you feel as if you need to give something a great option that most would happily accept would be a gift certificate to a nice restaurant. Or, if they are avid readers a gift certificate to a book store would be perfect. Please do not give too much, just a token.
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
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the_admin
Remarriage Forum Moderator / Moderator

Post #3 of 4 (8687 views)

Re: [dirnbee] Wedding Gift Etiquette [In reply to]

Usually, when a couple is getting married for the second time they do not need the typical gift one would give for a wedding so they will often say they want no gifts. However you may wish to mark the occasion or send a token of your esteem. A donation to a charity in their name is a nice idea. Depending on the charity they may provide a gift card you could insert into a wedding card. Any sort of keepsake such as a wedding album is also a good choice too. Do this only if you want to, not because you feel obligated becuse you have ben invited to an event.
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(This post was edited by the_admin on Nov 3, 2004, 3:24 PM)

Jill
Family Psychotherapist

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Re: [dirnbee] Wedding Gift Etiquette [In reply to]

Flowers are always lovely to receive. If your friends have a garden you could give a small tree to plant to remember the wedding day.
Jill Curtis, psychotherapist
http://familyonwards.com Author, How to Get Married ... Again (A Guide to Second Weddings) available from this site!