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LevidRomantic
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Sticky Situation

I have a few questions regarding my future wedding. My fiance and I are 20 years apart, I am 30 he is 50. I have been married previously and he has never been married (neither of us have children). My first wedding was rather large. Although it is his first wedding we both have expressed a desire for a small intimate ceremony (parents and siblings only). We are thinking along the lines of a nicer wedding ceremony in Vegas. Needless to say some members of our very large families are not quite happy with our decision. First question, should we do what we want and risk upsetting relatives or should we try to include everyone? Second question, if we opt for the small wedding is it appropriate to send announcments to all family members? If it is appropriate should I send them before or after the ceremony? Last question (I promise) if I opt for a small ceremony can a still wear a more formal gown? Ok I lied I have one more question. I have expressed to my fiance that I want a non traaditional wedding ring (since I already have numerous diamonds from the first marriage). I would like a sapphire / diamond ring. Friends are saying that is wrong so we have not bought the ring yet. What do you think? Thank you thank you thank you! Sorry for so many questions.

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Re: [LevidRomantic] Sticky Situation [In reply to]

I always say "Do what makes YOU happy, as long as it's legal, and if it makes others happy along the way then that's icing on the cake"! If at all possible, include as many family members and friends as you can or want. After the wedding, send the announcements.

Wear what you want (excpet a veil) and get the ring you like. Tell your friends to select their own wedding ring! Wink

If you have more questions please ask!
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