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friendsmother
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Send wedding gifts if not invited

If a couple got remarried to each other after living together for 3 yrs and did not invite anyone to the courthouse wedding - did not have a celebration, but sent announcements 2 months later - am I supposed to send a gift? They did not register. They live with his parents and have two children. They are friends of my grown children, not my friend's kids or even my friends. They told my son they sent us an announcement because they know we have money and will give them something expensive. I don't know what I am supposed to do. Please help! thank you.

(This post was edited by the_admin on May 12, 2009, 5:25 PM)

the_admin
Remarriage Forum Moderator / Moderator

Post #2 of 4 (476 views)

Re: [friendsmother] Send wedding gifts if not invited [In reply to]

Your son's friends are going to be surprised to find out that wedding announcements do not require a gift.

Sorry, but this couple sounds like a drain on society and a bad influence on your son. Don't help feed their entitlement. If you feel you must acknowledge their marriage, send a card.
I Do - Take Two Moderator

Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT / Moderator

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Re: [friendsmother] Send wedding gifts if not invited [In reply to]

Dear Friendsmother,

In a word, "Yuk". This sort of behavior and attitude is stomach turning.

No, you are not obligated to send a gift. If you choose to do so, an etiquette book or one on compassion and empathy might be a great idea.

Best wishes,
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
Etiquette Now
http://www.etiquettenow.com

the_admin
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Re: [Etiquette Now] Send wedding gifts if not invited [In reply to]

...or a book on how to make it in the world on your own.
I Do - Take Two Moderator