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2ndtimentx
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Rules for second marriage, first wedding...

I was barely 18 (and pregnant) when I eloped with my first husband. Though my parents were against the marriage, and were unsupportive of the marriage for several years afterwards -- they did financially help me and my children out after my marriage ended in divorce.

My finacee has never been married -- and were it not for that fact, I'd probably elope again. However, a part of me does want the wedding I never had. By no means can we afford a large extravagant wedding, but we have agreed to a small formal wedding that will still end up costing quite a penny.

It's already understood that my fiancee's parents will be covering the costs of the reception dinner and the honeymoon. And though the cost of the wedding and reception are traditionally paid for by the bride's parents, I hate to ask them for financial assistance after they helped me out after my divorce.

What, if any, rules of etiquette should be followed if I decide to ask my parents for assistance with the cost of the wedding? I know my parents are supportive of this marriage (as I'm 35 and much wiser now) -- but, I still can't shake the feeling that even though they didn't pay a dime towards my first marriage, they more than made up for it after my divorce. Thoughts? Advice?

the_admin
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Re: [2ndtimentx] Rules for second marriage, first wedding... [In reply to]

Actually, it is no longer the obligation of any parent to host a wedding for their children. So, any offer to help out should be considered a generous gift.

You should wait to see if your parents offer.
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