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susieq225
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I'm not sure what heading to put this under, so I guess Etiquette would be best. This will be the second wedding for both my fiance and me. We are in our late 40's, and our children are all on their own, ages 20 - 26. We have both been divorced for 8 years - so we are sure about each other - and what we want. We decided to do a destination wedding in Jamaica, just the 2 of us, since we have both had "the big wedding" already. We are not even bringing the "kids" - just too expensive.....I have a couple of questions; first, are we being rude by not inviting anyone? and second, do we wait until after we're married to send out annoucements? Is it just very selfish of us, or do many people do this?

Thanks for any advice.............

the_admin
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Re: [susieq225] Question [In reply to]

This is more a matter of personal choice. Do what pleases the two of you. Explain your decision to your family and I'm sure they will only want what makes you happy. However, if the issue is financial then explain that to them as well. They could decide that they'd want to be there even if they had to pay for themselves. As long as you don't invite them you aren't obligated to pay for them.

Announcements are always sent out after the wedding.
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susieq225
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Thanks, but here's another problem - some of our friends and family can afford it and some can't. Is it fair to those who can't afford it? I mean that's why we're not bringing the kids (and they are fine with it, by the way).

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This is a common way to marry these days. You would invite all who you wish to share the day with you whether or not you feel they can attend. Then it is their choice. This lets them know how you feel.

But, if you don't want guests and want this to be cozy with just the two of you, that is fine. It isn't selfish.
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
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