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My second, her only. What do we do?

babybear617
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My second, her only. What do we do?

I have a question about rules. I got married to a "not so good" person several years ago. We got divorced soon after, and had no kids. I'm ready to get married again to my current girlfriend. This is her first, and hopefully, only, wedding. We're both in our 20's. Since second marriage etiquette seems to differ drastically from first wedding etiquette, how should we proceed with this wedding? She wants to have a big wedding with the traditional wedding things, and since she's never been married, I tend to agree with that. The biggest question we have pertains to registering, and gifts. Should we register, and give my family the registry list, or just her family? Or is there some other rule that we're not even thinking of? Neither of us wants to appear tacky, so what do we do?

the_admin
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Re: [babybear617] My second, her only. What do we do? [In reply to]

Good to hear that you were quick to find that you had made a mistake and moved on to a healthier relationship.

There really isn't a drastic difference in first and second weddings anymore, especially in your case where only one of you has been married before. The biggest concern for you is if you want to get married in a Christian church and you were married for the first time in a church then you might need to seek an annulment.

You can certainly register for gifts and tell both sets of parents where you are registered. Take some time and review all of the pages of this site and if you still have questions wwhile you are planning be sure to come back to list them here.

I wish you many years of happiness...
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