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busymom72
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JOP Marriage

My husband and I were married by JOP alone, 13 years ago in October before the birth of our 2nd child. We have been together for 20 years. No other marriages on either end. I have always wanted to have the big to do wedding with the dress, bridesmaid, groomsmen, Reception party and such, but not sure if this is appropriate after everything I am reading on your site. It may sound more like a Vow Renewal? We both want to renew our vows, but I would like to do it as a small wedding setting/ceremony. Our anniversary is coming up on October 16, this would be a great opportunity to do something more formal with family and friends.

Thanks for your advice.
Busymom72

the_admin
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Re: [busymom72] JOP Marriage [In reply to]

Please read our pages on vow renewal and etiquette for them. These are not weddings. There are no do-overs. You can read through many other posts in this forum where we have answered your type of question in the past.

Happy anniversary. Enjoy your party.
I Do - Take Two Moderator

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Re: [busymom72] JOP Marriage [In reply to]

Absolutely. Completely agree. I think there is a lot of confusion about the vow renewal. This is probably due to the outrageous behavior we see from time to time with "celebrities" and the not so real reality shows. Of course, add in all those chat rooms where the masses tell each other that there are no rules for behavior. But, the vow renewal is not a wedding. If it were, husband and wife could be bride and groom.

These are usually best on bench mark anniversaries as well (20-25+).
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
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