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Handling the Shower and Registry

pink182
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Handling the Shower and Registry

Due to lack of the amount planning time, my fiance and I are eloping at the end of June. We are planning a vow renewal/anniversary party on our 1st anniversary. Due to the lack of time for my maid of honor to plan a shower and no invitations to announce a registry how and when should these be held/announced. Also, could you give a suggestion on the announcement in the paper. I was thinking of something along the lines of "we were married....planning an anniversary ceremony on..."

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Re: [pink182] Handling the Shower and Registry [In reply to]

Dear Eloping,

Only those invited to the wedding, not the anniversary party, can be invited to the shower. So, it really wouldn't matter if your MOH did have time to host it.

You can post an announcement of your marriage in the paper soon after your wedding. You can post an announcement of your planned elopement now if you want. Typically the publication has a template they prefer people to use. If not, read what others have posted.

This is not the place to announce your intentions to host an anniversary/vow renewal/reception. You are just supposed to announce your wedding. Plans change and readers may assume you are planning an open-to-all party.

You can send invitations for your party close to the event itself. These do not mention gifts other than to say, "Please no gifts", which is different than wedding invitations. In these, we do not mention gifts at all.

Sending out announcements about where you are registered is not appropriate. This is done by word of mouth when someone finds out you are marrying and wants to give you something.

Please read more about vow renewal etiquette to make sure this is what you want to do.

Best wishes,
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
Etiquette Now
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