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Sweetz9422
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Extreme Anxiety about Second Wedding
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My fiance and i are both divorced. We both had traditional weddings and we are trying to decide what to do about ours, which is causing alot of anxiety for me.
My gut says to go away and do it alone and maybe have a small party at home afterwards. But my heart is torn, because I know my family wont be there. Alot of people say, "You already had a wedding." Well, yeah we did but it wasn't with each other! Part of me wants that experience with my new husband, while part of me just wants to avoid all the stress and finances.
Does my 2nd wedding mean less if my loved ones arent there (they were there for my first)? And how do I stop worrying about what everyone thinks, and how my desires will affect them? And most of all, how do I stop worrying about my finaces first wedding, and how mine will be compared, by him and others?
Any advice would help. Thanks!
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the_admin
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Re: [Sweetz9422] Extreme Anxiety about Second Wedding
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You and your groom should decide together about what sort of wedding the two of you want. Just because it is a second wedding, as you mentioned, it is your first with each other. If you want your family to be present, then invite them. But, I would shy away from anything too elaborate. No trains or veils. This doesn't have to be costly to be beautiful and meaningful. Make it your own.
I can't tell you how to stop worrying, except to say that if the two of you plan a wedding with the focus on your vows and your love, rather than all the trimmings, the rest will fall into place and it will be a unique ceremony for the two of you.
I Do - Take Two Site Administrator
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Etiquette Now
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Re: [Sweetz9422] Extreme Anxiety about Second Wedding
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I agree. Plus, there is no comparison to either of your first weddings, as you two are different people. So, decide on your budget and the type of wedding you wish to host together.
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
Etiquette Now
http://www.etiquettenow.com
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