Do We Invite the ex-in-laws to the wedding?

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Do We Invite the ex-in-laws to the wedding?

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Do We Invite the ex-in-laws to the wedding?

I am a young widow and am planning to re-marry on a cruise ship in 2004. My immediate family (and my fiances') and a few close friends will be attending along with our combined 4 children. The question is am I obligated or is it proper etiquette to invite my deceased husbands family? I have remained pretty close to my husbands parents and 3 sisters but not as close as prior to my husbands death. I have two young children 6 and 9 and they see their Grandparents at least once a month for a long weekend.

They have been very accepting and welcoming of my new fiance and his two children and we have on a couple occaisons all got together and spent time with with the entire family.

I love them all but I am just not sure it I want them at my wedding? I know tht sounds horrible but I try to put myself in my finaces shoes? The cruise is a big expense and would fear that 1 or more would come out of obligation. Do I invite? What is the etiquette? Help!

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Although you stilll have a nice relationship with your deceased husband's parent's (great for your children!) it sounds as though you really don't want them to be at the wedding. This is totally understandable since you are begining a new life with a new husband. You are certainly not obligated to invite them so go ahead and have your intimate wedding to begin your new life.

Frankly, it may be too painful for the ex-in-law's to attend anyway. If you feel that you would like them to be at your wedding, (and your fiance is in agreement with this), then have a discussion with them before sending the formal invitation to let them know you will be inviting them and to find out how they really feel about it.