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Bridesmaids or not in second wedding party?

Stephanie
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Bridesmaids or not in second wedding party?

I am 33 and divorced with one 7 yr. old boy. My fiance is 29 and has never been married. My son loves him! This is the problem we are experiencing. My fiance wants a big wedding with approx. 150 guests and a ceremony. I don't mind this if we tone down the ceremony and include my son. My mother is against the idea of bridesmaids. Both my fiance and myself want a few good friends to stand (we thought of 3 plus my son and niece). It would be a short ceremony and I would wear a simple dress (no veil, train, etc.). Can you please give me some opinions on whether or not this is appropriate? What doess modern etiquette suggest?

(This post was edited by the_admin on May 4, 2004, 4:59 PM)

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Most anything goes these days! Incuding your son is a great way to begin you new life as a family and choosing one or two close friends to stand up for you is perfectly aceptable. It's typical for second time brides to forgo the train and veil and keeping the the bridal party at a minimum but the ceremony is THE wedding so be sure to give this portion of the wedding day just as much attention as the reception party afterward. Write your own vows, have a family unity candle ceremony, etc.

Please review our page on second wedding etiquette http://gettingremarried.com/wedding_etiquette_advice.html and our pages on how to include children for more information.http://gettingremarried.com/child_wedding.html and http://gettingremarried.com/second_marriage_ceremony.html.

Above all enjoy and savor your wedding day and married life!