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Bridal shower for a second wedding?

Ljackson
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Bridal shower for a second wedding?

My son was married for almost 2 years and recently got divorced (in April). He is engaged to be married again in August. He and his first wife had a bridal shower and his family and friends were very generous with gifts. Now that he is engaged to be married again in August, is it proper to send bridal shower invitations to these same family members and friends and expect them to again be so generous....so soon? or should they just be sent wedding invitations? (Most of them probably don't even know that he is divorced yet) This is the bride's first marriage. Thank you for any help you may have.

(This post was edited by Ljackson on Jun 9, 2005, 9:21 AM)

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Re: [Ljackson] Bridal shower for a second wedding? [In reply to]

Dear MOG,

Hopefully you are just asking because you have been asked for a list of guest's names. A mother should never host the bridal shower.

There is nothing wrong with inviting these people. However, unless this is a couple's shower, the invited should only be very close family, family of the bride, and those very close to the bride. We want to keep these as small as possible so that everyone feels closer and more a part of the wedding planning process. This would be difficult when the bride doesn't even know these people.

I understand your trepidation here. It may be difficult for some of your family who may not even know about his divorce. Only you would know which members of your family may be offended and those who just want the best for your son.

Best wishes,
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
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