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Both 2nd Marriages, What's Appropriate?

SweetMelissa
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Both 2nd Marriages, What's Appropriate?

My fiance' and I have very similar backgrounds... Both of our 1st marriages consisted almost "shotgun" style weddings at a young age due to little ones on the way. With my 1st wedding, a large wedding was planned and then one month prior to the wedding, he cancelled... we then had a smaller wedding several months later. The wedding consisted of only his family and my immediate family since it was planned in only three days. My fiance's was, however, a little different. His ex had insisted (after their 1st smaller wedding) on a vow renewal wedding that was more of a traditional wedding--elaborate and quite expensive. Our last marriages unfortunately terminated due to our other halves decision. Now that we are planning our own, how do you suggest that we approach our parents re: financial support? Also, any suggestions for a smaller wedding? Please keep in mind that the situation is different. Our parents are extremely happy and supportive this go round. We were, at first, thinking about eloping, but ruled that out because we want our daughters to be a part of the marriage process. (This is something his mother actually suggested) However, we are very limited with finances.

Much Thanks..

SweetMelissa, GA

the_admin
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Re: [SweetMelissa] Both 2nd Marriages, What's Appropriate? [In reply to]

Sweet Melissa...congratulations on finding love again.

You really can't count on your parent's to finance your wedding. Even the first time around they aren't obligated to provide a wedding with all the trimmings. I suppose you could drop some hints and if they offer to pay, great...but I wouldn't ask. If you want to have a big wedding this time around plan one that fits into your budget.

There are many ways to plan a wedding on a budget that we mention all over this site. Have a look around the site and after you have reviewed if you still have questions do come back to this page for more help.
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Trogalla
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Re: [the_admin] Both 2nd Marriages, What's Appropriate? [In reply to]

Congratulations, I too am getting married the second time around, and finance's are short. I went on Ebay and bought a BEAUTIFUL dress @ $40.00, my shoes, zippos.com..$17.00
I'm not sure where you live but look for a place online called freecycle. Many items you can ask for and they give them away, you can't sell or buy, its ALL free :-) Msny people put in for wedding items, decorations, etc...
Good Luck and Many Blessings
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