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spirit06
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3rd marriage

This will be my 3rd marriage and my fiance's first. He wanted a big church wedding and so after planning for a year and making most of the arrangements already I come to find out his family does not think its right for us to have a big wedding. I was apprehensive at first about a big wedding anyway and tried to get past that and to focus on the present & not the past not knowing his family had issues. Well, now I'm all messed up & upset and don't know what to do because I won't feel right at my own wedding knowing his family isn't for it. I don't know what to do and almost everything has been paid for as far as deposits go.

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Re: [spirit06] 3rd marriage [In reply to]

Dear Family Woes,

Whose wedding is it? It is yours and your fiance's wedding. This is what he wants. It is his first and your first with him. It is your beginning together. As long as you two are paying for your wedding, you should be able to have any type of wedding you want to have. It is unfortunate they are having issues, but you are not doing anything inappropriate.

Please ask your fiance to talk to his family. Communication is key.

Best wishes,
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
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