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asking guests to pay for their own meal at vow renewal

mmercer
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asking guests to pay for their own meal at vow renewal

My friend is renewing her wedding vows, they have been married 16 years and did not get married in the Church. They have met all the requirements of the Catholic Church and will have the church ceremony that they have always wanted. They have two daughters 6 & 7 years old and they will stand up for then. It will be a simple ceremony with close friends and family. Afterward we are going to have dinner, I am going to put linens and flowers on the tables. They will have a cake and a family photo table. At the dinner, each person will be responsible to pay for their own meal. The location will have a private room, menu and open bar. Does she put that on the invitation or just the ceremony information and verbally invite anyone who wants to join them for dinner? How does this work?
Regards,

Michele

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Re: [mmercer] asking guests to pay for their own meal at vow renewal [In reply to]

Dear Michele,

If she invites guests, she is expected to pay for them. It is never polite to ask guests to pay for the party. And, since she is setting this up as a reception/anniversary type party, she and her husband should pay for everything. If they cannot afford to pay, they should scale the party down to one they can afford.

Best wishes,
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
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(This post was edited by the_admin on May 7, 2009, 6:40 PM)