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Catholic views on Renewing vows

mark a s
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Catholic views on Renewing vows

My wife is keen to renew her vows.

I'm not so sure as I put my integrity on the line when I said them all those years ago.

I guess she feels insecure as she's 40 this year so it must be a mid life crisis type of thing.

I am happy to renew them with her if it will make her happy.

However she would like to go to Italy and renew her vows there during a weeks holiday.

I suspect the church in Italy will be less moderate and would not entertain using the church for what could be described as a flippant or indulgent event.

Am I right..does anyone have any experience of renewing vows in Italy and what reaction did you get?

Many thanks

Mark

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Re: [mark a s] Catholic views on Renewing vows [In reply to]

Renewing your wedding vows should be something special between you and your wife; a meaningful and loving way to re-profess your love for one another. Please speak to your wife about why she wants to renew the vows and examine why you don't reslly care about it. You probably shouldn't do it simply " if it will make her happy".

I don't think a church will allow you to renew vows (you might want to post that question in our religious forum) but call ahead to confirm that before traveling. There are so many beautiful places in Italy to have a vow renewal service. Check with a local travel agent for ideas.
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mark a s
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Re: [the_admin] Catholic views on Renewing vows [In reply to]

Many thanks for your reply.

I must however state that I do Love my wife and you may have got the impression from my post that I didn't.

I suppose my reluctance to renew my vows is because in some ways to me it feels as if I wasn't taken seriously the first time 17yrs ago...if you see what I mean.

It may also give people the idea that we were doing it for a reason that perhaps one of you had done something they shouldn't and was being brought back into line...which is certainly not the case.

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Re: [mark a s] Catholic views on Renewing vows [In reply to]

Just the fact that you came to the site and posted means you obviously care. I do see what you mean but anyone who wouldn't find a couple renewing their commitment to each other as anything but endearing is someone I wouldn't care to know.

Don't worry about what others think, just think about you and your wife, and what renewing your vows will mean to the two of you.

Please let us know how it all turns out and thanks for sharing.
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(This post was edited by the_admin on Apr 24, 2004, 8:12 PM)