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Channing
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wording second wedding invitations

Hi! I am confused! This is my second marriage, his first. I have two children, he has none. How can we word this? His Mom and Dad are divorced, however, his Dad is re-married. How can we include everyone on the invite? (My two Children, His Mom, his Dad and his step-mom) And since this IS my second wedding, do I NOT have my parents (who are still married) do the inviting?? I'm so confused.

Thanks!! Mad

(This post was edited by the_admin on Mar 14, 2005, 6:21 PM)

Channing
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Post #2 of 6 (10806 views)

Re: [Channing] Invitations [In reply to]

OH!! One more thing....I am marrying someone from my Childhood so 90% of the guests will know me by my MAIDEN name and not my MARRIED, LEGAL name. If I was to use my last name, is it appropriate at that point to use the Maiden name?

Etiquette Now
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Re: [Channing] Invitations [In reply to]

Dear Invitations,

Who is hosting the wedding? Are you paying for it, or are his parents? If you are hosting, there is no reason for mentioning parents. There is no reason to mention your children either. Is this something you want to do, list all of the parents and your children on your invitation?

Typically, for the bride's second wedding, the parents do not issue the invitations. These are usually issued by the couple. Let me know what you want to do.

As for the question of using your maiden name, you would use your legal name with your maiden name printed under it: Your Legal Name

(Your Maiden Name)

Best wishes,
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
Etiquette Now
http://www.etiquettenow.com

Channing
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Re: [Et.byRebecca] Invitations [In reply to]

Craziest thing, I had JUST pulled up your website when I got an email with your reponse to my question. :) After further researching, I did discover that the invitations should be issued by myself and Fiance since we are the ones paying (for the most part) for the wedding. As for my Children, I think I will have them "give me away" and stand with me during the ceremony. :)

Thank you for the response!

Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT

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Re: [Channing] Invitations [In reply to]

That will be so awesome, Channing. If you mentioned everyone on your invitation it would have looked like a list instead of an invitation. Great decision.

Enjoy!!!
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
Etiquette Now
http://www.etiquettenow.com

the_admin
Remarriage Forum Moderator / Moderator

Post #6 of 6 (10790 views)

Re: [Channing] Invitations [In reply to]

Some people like to word the second wedding invitation as though the children are doing the inviting:

Susanna and John Smith

and

Jennifer and Ian Jones

request the pleasure of your company

at the wedding reception for their parents

Jodi Marks Smith

and

Douglas Matthew Jones

Ms. Jodi Marks Smith
with her daughter Susanna Lee Smith
and her son John William Smith
and
Mr. Douglas Matthew Jones

with his daughter Jennifer Ann Smith
and his son Ian Michael Jones
request the pleasure of your company
at the union of their families.

I Do - Take Two Moderator