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Not inviting wedding guests' children

Help! We are having a small wedding and the only children at the wedding will be ours. How do you your properly request that guests leave children at home and not offend them? Basis of: 1. that you actually asked for no kids, and 2. that the kids there are family. Thank you...m & C

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Dear No Children Please,

We actually have many posts concerning this issue. You may want to read them. Many people do not want to include children these days.

There is no polite way to say this on an invitation. In fact, this along with references to gifts is a major no-no. So, you may spread the word and only write the names of the invited on the inner envelope. Some people are even becoming desperate enough to write the names of the invited on the response card.

If this is a very formal wedding, you could handwrite the names of the invited on the invitation. But, these invitation are very formal and of the no-fold variety.

Please note, that people are very protective of their children. And, while it is acceptable to only invite those children who are close to you, it is typically not received well by everyone. Guests often wonder why their child was excluded.

Sincerely,
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
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