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mari4him
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Special Dances for Step-Kids

Hello,

I am hoping you guys could help me out. My fiance and I are getting married in just a few days, 6/14/2008. This is a second time around wedding for both of us. He had the wedding the first time, but I did not. We are having a church ceremony and intimate reception.

The whole concept of our wedding however is how not only are he and I becoming one, but we are joining our families. We have striven to incorporate all that is important to us into our ceremony and reception. Honoring God first and foremost and honoring our children having them all hold special roles in our ceremony.

His son is 15 and will stand as his Best Man. His 2 little girls ages 3 and 4 will be our Flower Girls. My son who is 19 will accompany me down the aisle and present me to my fiance. My daughter who is 15 is my Maid of Honor.

We are doing the Unity Candle Ceremony with the song "Yours, Mine, and Ours" playing. After we say our vows to each other, a simple vow will be exchanged between each of us and the children of the other. As well as a short simple vow for the children to say "We do" to.

As for the ceremony part we have it pretty much covered. However, when it comes to the reception we are stuck in an area.

I will be dancing the traditional Father/Daughter dance with my son instead (son still narrowing down song). He will be dancing the traditional Mother/Son dance with his two little girls (using "Cinderella" by Steven Curtis Chapman). We however did not want to leave out the other 2 children, my daughter/his new step-daughter and his son/my new step-son. We both will be dancing with both of them at the same time to one song. However, we are having a really hard time finding a good song that would fit both a boy and a girl and not sound like a couple's love song.

Do you have any suggestions whatsoever. I have searched around but haven't found anything that I feel would work. Closest I have is...

"I'll be" by Reba McEntire
"My wish" by Rascall Flatts

Just not totally sold on either yet. Hoping you could help me out.

Thanks,
Mari

the_admin
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Post #2 of 4 (1684 views)

Re: [mari4him] Special Dances for Step-Kids [In reply to]

I am a big Reba fan, so, I think that's a great choice. You might want to re-think "Stealing Cinderella" since that one is more for a young lady getting married.

In my opinion, these are some good, family type songs.

Can You Feel the Love Tonight - Elton John

You'll Be In My Heart - (Theme From Tarzan) - Sting

Sunshine of My Life - Stevie Wonder

Rainbow Connection - Willie Nelson or Kermit the Frog

Have I Told You Lately that I Love You - Rod Stewart

There You'll Be - Faith Hill

Greatest Love of All - Whitney Houston

Congratulations and enjoy the wedding.
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mari4him
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Post #3 of 4 (1679 views)

Re: [the_admin] Special Dances for Step-Kids [In reply to]

Thanks for those suggestions. I will be hitting you tube to check them out. Right now the Reba one seems to hold first place unless I find something I like better.

As for the Cinderella song. "Stealing Cinderella" is a different one. The one we are using is titled only "Cinderella". It is by Christian singer Steven Curtis Chapman. It is actually a beautiful song (my fiance tears up each and every time he hears it). It begins with the little girl tugging at her daddy wanting to practice her dancing, then moves to young lady and prom, again wanting to practice her dancing, and finally wedding again wanting to practice dancing. But the message and focus is on the daddy not wanting to miss the moment and holding on to his cinderella now, dancing with her now because of knowing what Prince Charming didn't know, that time would pass and Cinderella would be gone.

If you haven't heard it, its a beautiful song and a tear jerker for sure. My 15 year old daughter got emotional hearing it. You can find it on you tube. If you choose to do so, I'd love to hear what you think.

Anyway.. gonna check those suggestions out. If you can think of any others, or anyone else has any other suggestions, I'm open to hearing them.

Thanks bunches.

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Post #4 of 4 (1675 views)

Re: [mari4him] Special Dances for Step-Kids [In reply to]

You're right, that is an awesome, and all-too-true message. Gosh, they grow up and away so fast. My daughter's father died when I was pregnant with her so it's a tough one for me to listen to. I am immersed in his website, though. Thanks for introducing me to this artist.

Another good one, in that same vain, is You're Gonna Miss This by Travis Tritt. I sent it to my son for college graduation.
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