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Making my daughter Maid of Honor

smitten1113
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Making my daughter Maid of Honor

I've been doing some research on the web, trying to find advise on how to include my daughter (who will be 7 for the wedding) in my ceremony. Truth is, we moved to our current home from across the country about a year ago, and I haven't developed any close female relationships yet. I would really like to make my daughter Maid of Honor (Best Man and Maid of Honor being the only attendants), but struggle with worry whether it's fair to ask her to take on such a position. She's very excited about the wedding, and can't wait to get a flower girl dress. Does anyone have any thoughts they'd like to share on what might be the best course of action?

Thanks

the_admin
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Re: [smitten1113] Making my daughter Maid of Honor [In reply to]

Traditionally, the Maid of Honor would usually be someone over the age of 18 since the younger girls tend to be flower girls and junior bridesmaids but since you are not having any other attendants your daughter won't look out of place. In fact, I think it would be rather sweeet. What is your concern with asking your daughter to be your maid of honor?

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smitten1113
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Re: [the_admin] Making my daughter Maid of Honor [In reply to]

My concern is that maybe she is too young to stand in one spot for the duration of the ceremony. After all, she will be 7. But then I think about how excited she is about the wedding, and how "proper" she can act when dressed up.

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Re: [smitten1113] Making my daughter Maid of Honor [In reply to]

A typical 7 year old should be able to remain in her place for a short ceremony (assuming this is not a Catholic mass). If she can't, so what? Have an adult on hand who can be in charge if things get out of hand and who could guide her if she forgets what to do or where to stand. But, I bet she will be very interested in what you are doing and saying. Be sure to rehearse at home. Make a game of it. Perhaps she has a bride Barbie and groom Ken doll you cold play "wedding" with and practice everyone's role. Just don't give her anything to say since speaking in public could make her nervous. Sometimes the kids can speak up at home and at the rehearsal but, when they finally get up in public they clam up.

My advice is to relax and enjoy the day no matter if your little "maid of honor" stands still or not.
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smitten1113
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Re: [the_admin] Making my daughter Maid of Honor [In reply to]

Thank you so much for the advise. What you said makes perfect sense. Practice and having an extra person helping her through are great ideas.