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Kimberly Smith
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Financial Responsibility

My ex-husband's fiance' has asked my 9 year old daughter to be a bridesmaid & she accepted. I was not consulted first, but do not have a problem with her participation. I have legal custody of her & my ex has visitation rights & sometimes pays a minimal amount to me for child support. Because it is his wedding, I am hoping that he will be picking up the tab for everything, but I don't know how to broach this subject with him or what the correct etiquette is. He as a matter of fact has yet to tell me that they have become engaged. Would you please tell me, who is financially responsible for the dress, shoes, hair, jewelry etc,.. for our daughter for his wedding? Thanks!

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Re: [Kimberly Smith] Financial Responsibility [In reply to]

Dear Financial Responsibility,

Usually the parents of the child are responsible for all of the costs involved. However, you were not asked, so you did not accept all of those responsibilities. You are being forced into taking them. So, I don't think it is unreasonable for you to expect them to cover all of her expenses. He is after all her father. Because he only 'sometimes' pays child support, he should have enough discretionary money to cover it.

Best wishes,
Rebecca Black, Etiquette Consultant
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http://www.etiquettenow.com

Mannersmith
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Re: [Et.byRebecca] Financial Responsibility [In reply to]

Dear Ms. Smith,

As your daughter's father and the groom in the wedding, it is your
ex-husband's responsibility to purchase the dress, stockings, shoes,
jewelry, and even cover the cost of having her hair done. Please take the
high road and call him. Sincerely congratulate him on his upcoming weddings
(he probably has not told you because he is afraid of how you will react).
Then let him know how happy you are that he has asked your daughter to be in the weddings. Ask if he needs to know her sizes for the wedding attire and
do ask if he will be going shopping with your daughter and the fianc� or
just the two of them. Then be quiet and wait to here the response.

All the best,
Jodi R R Smith, The MannerSmith

(This post was edited by Mannersmith on Oct 17, 2004, 9:40 AM)