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3rdTimesacharm
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Mar 9, 2005, 6:44 PM
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A 'wedding' ring for our 8-year old
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I am about to marry the man of my dreams. Among so many reasons why he's the man of my dreams, is his inclusion of my daughter in this process of preparing to be a family. She is a precocious 8-year old who dearly loves him, is embracing this marriage and is so excited that he's going to be her step-dad. We have dated long distance for nearly 3 years and now we want to be a family. We're currently looking at rings and he suggested getting her a ring also and presenting it in a manner of 'it's a marriage of three'. All of our attendants are children including her (except the Matron of Honor and Best Man). Are we over doing it? If not, what would be a good, appropriate way to present her with this?
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Deacon Bob
INDEPENDANT CATHOLIC DEACON
Mar 10, 2005, 11:01 PM
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Re: [3rdTimesacharm] A 'wedding' ring for our 8-year old
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It is wonderful that your fiance' and daughter are excited about becoming a family. I have a wonderful relationship with my step son. I do agree that the ring could send the wrong message but there are many ways to include her in the ceremony. It is possible for some special vows where she will accept your new husband as a member of the family and her step father. Your new husband can accept the responsibility for raising your daughter as his own.
The three of you could light the Unity Candle together (if you are going to have one).
The imagination is your only limitation on what you can do to include your daughter in this important day. I always remind couples that a marriage not only unites two individuals but two families as well.
Best of luck to the three of you and I only hope that your daughter and her step father have as a rewarding and loving relationship as I have with my step son. God Bless.
Deacon Bob Tousey
Independant catholic Deacon
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