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Including 5 children in the blended family wedding?

mpmommy
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Including 5 children in the blended family wedding?

I have 2 wonderful children. A 5 yr old girl and a 8 yr old boy. My fiance has 3 children. 7yr old boy, 5 & 3 yr old girls. This is a second marriage for the both of us. We want to include all our children in the wedding but don't really know where to put them all. Any idea's? We have thought of 3 flower girls for the girls, but aren't sure since it seems like a little bit of overkill, and haven't thought of anything for the boys. My son thinks he's too old to be a ring bearer, and he's really not old enough to be a jr. usher. AKKKK!! Any idea's would be appericated!

(This post was edited by the_admin on Aug 22, 2005, 1:24 PM)

the_admin
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Re: [mpmommy] Including 5 children in the blended family wedding? [In reply to]

Well, this will be a nice group, won't it? Smile

I agree that your son is a bit too old, at age 8, to be a ring bearer. However, he and your soon-to-be stepson could stand inside of the chuirch and hand out programs and/or bubbles and they could be bell ringers who announce that the Bride is coming. Kids love this responsibility but do go over with them that they are not to ring the bells but once, as you are entering the church or hall. They would dress in the same outfit as the other men in the bridal party.

The three little girls would be darling as flower girls; there is no limit to how many flower girls to include.

For more information please review our page on Wedding Attire for Children in the Bridal Party.

During the wedding reception you might want to consider doing a Teddy Bear Toss - Instead of including young children in the bouquet and garter toss, have a Teddy Bear Toss all their own. Each bride and groom teddy bear measures 5" tall. Teddy Bear Toss includes bride and groom teddy bear with white or ivory veil, bouquet, and bow tie accessories. VERY CUTE!

Go here for more information about including children in your second wedding.

Enjoy the planning!
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(This post was edited by the_admin on Aug 22, 2005, 5:20 PM)

yvonne"instep"
Social Worker, Stepmother, Certified Stepfamily Counsellor / Moderator

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Re: [mpmommy] Including 5 children in the blended family wedding? [In reply to]

I believe our Admin's response says it best and really does give everyone an important role on that day and that is what is the most important - that all the children are involved and that they are comfortable and feel that their part is significant. Good for you for making them a priority in this way. We just had a wedding in our stepfamily (my oldest stepdaughter got married in July). My husband and I also have three sons together (1/2 brothers to his girls). All the boys were ringbearers (ages 8, 6, and 3) They seemed fine with it and were excited to be helping out especially because the flower girls were younger and the boys' job was also to be there for the younger kids as well as being in the ceremony. Things went very well and the kids were thrilled and now looking back on the pictures, they are so proud to have been a part of everything. Our children and yours will remember this day for the rest of their lives and it becomes one of the first and most significant memories you have together as a blended family. Have a great wedding day!
Yvonne Kelly, MSW, RSW, Certified Stepfamily Counsellor and Coach,
Co-Founder and Director of the Step and Blended Family Institute
http://www.stepinstitute.ca

nancy
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Re: [the_admin] Including 5 children in the blended family wedding? [In reply to]

Hello - I have you beat. I have six in total. Three are mine ages 11, 13, and 15. His, 8, 11, and 18. I need help wording our invitations. I thought about putting all their names on the invitation, but it would be too long. Any suggestions? As for the ceremony, my two sons 13 and 15 will walk me down the aisle as my father is deceased and the 18 yr. old will be our matron of honor (i believe matron is when one is not married?) and the three girls want to be the Jr. Brides Maids. I asked my daughter who is 11 to be my Matron of Honor, but she declined. She requested to do what her future step sisters do.

We are having the wedding out of town and have 60 guests. Is there a site that offers ordering invitations that don't require a minimum as I only need about 20 invitations. I was also thinking about printing myself.

Any suggestions would be great.

the_admin
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Re: [nancy] Including 5 children in the blended family wedding? [In reply to]

Hello Nancy -

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