Family Medallion Ceremony
Your wedding day symbolizes more than the bond between two people; it is the day a new family is created. If you or your fiancé have children already, then your wedding day should mean the same thing to them, a day when they become part of something new. As such, you probably have questions like: How can I include the children in the wedding? How can stepfamilies unite as one? is there a special wedding ceremony for a blended family? And, the answer is a resounding, Yes"! We welcome the Family Medallion Ceremony in all of it's glory.
Involving Children and Families in the Wedding
A quarter of all American weddings involve children from previous relationships. Over two million weddings are performed each year, which means that half a million couples need to decide if, and how, to involve their children in their weddings. With so many families blending together, it is becoming more common for the new commitment to these children to become part of the marriage vows that couples pledge publicly.
So, what is the Family Medallion ceremony?
The Family Medallion ceremony is a meaningful way to integrate your children or stepchildren into the wedding of their parents. It is a simple, yet profound, way to show them that your thoughts and commitment extend to them. The ceremony gives a small token, a family medallion, to all of your children to represent that they are part of the new family and marriage.
The family medallion itself has a symbol of three interlocking circles, representing the new commitment between you, your spouse, and your child. Like the wedding ring between husband and wife, the family medallion is a reminder to your child that they are a loved and integral part of your life and your family.
A unique candle lighting ceremony for weddings including children. A keepsake candle holder with the special three-ring design symbolizes the blending of family. Each candle-set includes ceramic base, a 9" candle with printing "Our Family Candle", two 9.5" taper candles for parents, matches for lighting and includes ceremony ideas. Children's candles sold separately.
This kind of visual affirmation can be exceptionally powerful for your child. Frequently, children are excited or happy when they first hear their parent is getting remarried, but that can gradually change into more negative emotions — disinterest, anxiety, even antagonism. What they see in the wedding planning process is their parent moving onto a new life that may not visibly include them. They know life is going to change after the marriage – and they need to be comforted in how that change is going to affect them.
The Family Medallion ceremony shows clearly that everyone is being integrated into a new family together. The Family Medallion ceremony parallels the ring ceremony; like it sounds, the Family Medallion ceremony is a simple ceremony that involves giving a token – a lapel pin, pendant, or ring – to your children during the wedding ceremony, with spoken recognition of the new and existing relationships that the family medallion symbolizes.
It is a simple, short addition to the traditional wedding ceremony, only about five minutes long (which works well for the little ones with a short attention span!). It’s also interfaith, so it can work seamlessly with traditional Catholic or denominational weddings or civil ceremonies. The Officiant offers a small statement about the love and unity of a family and asks both the bride and groom to promise their love and support for their children and stepchildren. They then bring the children forward and present each of them with the family medallion.
Including children and stepchildren in the ceremony is a meaningful emotional image for them. It truly shows them the love and commitment that you have, that they are being welcomed into the family. The family medallion is a tangible symbol that their parent and new stepparent care for them.
Binding The Family In Marriage
The Family Medallion ceremony adds a special time, a special memory, for your wedding. There can be a danger nowadays in being too casual or too jaded about marriage, to forget that the wedding itself is a long-standing symbol of something else. It is a symbol of creation and of new life. It represents family. It can be difficult creating a new family while remembering and respecting previous relationships, but a moment in the service like the Family Medallion ceremony is a reminder that a marriage doesn’t do away with these old relationships: it unites all of them together into something new and special. There is even a unique Family Medallion Song, written just for you!
Family Medallion Vows and Sample Ceremony Wording
When ordering your Family medallions you will receive the original, unique Family Medallion Ceremony complete with vows written by Reverend Roger Coleman. This ceremony and vows are only available through Family Medallion. However, here is a segment or sample of the ceremony:
Officiant: Often we think of a wedding as the union of two people. In reality, it is much broader. It is a coming together of two families...(the remainder of the ceremony is available with every medallion)
Presentation of Medallions: Typically done after the bride and groom is pronounced husband and wife.
Officiant: Two merged circles often symbolize love. The Family Medallion has three circles to represent love that reaches out to include others...
Bride and Groom: In presenting (this/these) Family Medallion(s), we pledge our continuing love to you... (more with the complete ceremony).
Family Prays: We give thanks, O Lord, for the relationship here celebrated. We are humbled by the recognition that today we face a new future, one where love is unfolding before our very eyes... (again, more)
A Reading from Prophets: " ...You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth."
God bless your new blended family.