[dirnbee]

My good friend is getting married for the 2nd time. On the invitation they requested no gifts be given, but we feel awkward not bringing a check. What would you suggest?

[Etiquette Now]

When a person says 'no gifts' they really mean it. However, if you feel as if you need to give something a great option that most would happily accept would be a gift certificate to a nice restaurant. Or, if they are avid readers a gift certificate to a book store would be perfect. Please do not give too much, just a token.

[the_admin]

Usually, when a couple is getting married for the second time they do not need the typical gift one would give for a wedding so they will often say they want no gifts. However you may wish to mark the occasion or send a token of your esteem. A donation to a charity in their name is a nice idea. Depending on the charity they may provide a gift card you could insert into a wedding card. Any sort of keepsake such as a wedding album is also a good choice too. Do this only if you want to, not because you feel obligated becuse you have ben invited to an event.

[Jill]

Flowers are always lovely to receive. If your friends have a garden you could give a small tree to plant to remember the wedding day.