[meganmm711]

My husband and I got married at the court house because he was being deployed to Iraq. We still want the big day. Is it okay to have a regular wedding? He still has 4 months until he comes home from deployment. We are hoping to have a wedding when he comes home so that all of our friends and family can be apart of us being together. If it is okay then how do you word the invitations since we are already married? We have only been married for 9 months. Also any other information regarding our situation would be great since this is still new to me. Thanks![]

[Etiquette Now]

Dear Wedding we didn't have,

You would be inviting you guests to a reaffirmation of your wedding vows. This can be every bit as formal as a first wedding. The only difference is that it doesn't have to be a legal ceremony--license and an officiate. A friend could even perform the ceremony. You shouldn't wear a veil, but your dress may be everything you wish.

Your invitations would read something like this:

The honour of your presence (next line) is requested at the reaffirmation (next line) of the wedding vows of (next line) Mr. and Mrs. Very Happy (next line) Saturday, the ninth of April (next line) two thousand and five (next line) at two o'clock ... (next two lines) the address.

It will be a wonderful event for all of your family and friends to share.

Congratulations!

[Jill]

You will have a lot to celebrate when your husband comes home. If you want a religious ceremony - or blessing - then talk to whoever might officiate. You will almost certainly find him/her very helpful.

You could send out the invitations from you both as a couple inviting people to celebrate your marriage with you.

[Etiquette Now]

A veil is a symbol of youth and innocence, so it isn't appropriate for a reaffirmation.