[Cherie]

A dear friend lost her husband a few years ago. She has met someone new, which I am very happy about I have no issues with this new man in her life. The only problem I have is that she has started planning a wedding before she's become officially engaged and before the groom-to-be has even received his divorce papers. Am I wrong in thinking this is in bad taste? I need some advice as I really don't know what to say to her, so I keep avoiding the whole issue.

[the_admin]

Hello good friend,

As someone who loves your friend, you have every right for concern since there can be problems planning a wedding date before the divorce is final. For example, what will they do if the divorce is not finalized before the wedding date rolls around? They will not be able to obtain a marriage license so they won't be able to get married and they will lose all of their deposits if they're planning a reception.

Whether or not to speak to your friend really depends on your relationship and her personality. Perhaps take he out for coffee and discuss it in a non-threatening manner, explaining the issues that surround her decision. Your care and concern should shine through.

Love will wait.

With regard to becoming officially engaged, it's not really proper etiquette, but who knows what legal implications there might be in the case of the divorce. She should discuss this with her attorney and her clergy.

Good luck with this. Please let me know how it works out.