[as110]

We have been together for 15 years and we have 6 year old twin boys. We are going to get married next year due to the time it takes to get all the necessary papers for overseas wedding (my second and his first). The boys will be 7 years old by then. All my cousins have boys about the same age (3,5,7,11) and we want to have all the little boys to be part of the wedding party. We thought our 2 boys could have a special role and stick out of the boy crowd a bit more by carrying our rings. One ring for each boy so they don't fight LOL. We thought this would be cute and we could get away with it because they are identical.

But I read in someone's post a concern that 7 might be too old to be a ring bearer. So what is the cut off age for ring bearers?

If they will be too old, can they walk us down the aisle, one boy with me and the other with his dad?
Both our dads (the grandpas) passed away and I don't want my mom to walk me down the aisle. We want both moms to enjoy the party without stress and expectations from us since they are both elderly. This is a small informal wedding with family and we just want to have fun, unlike at my first time ;0)
The little boys can blow bubbles, the 11 year old can handle the bubble machine outside. What other roles can my boys have if they can't be ring bearers?


thanks for reading.

[the_admin]

They will be a little too old for that role that's usually occupied by the 3-5 year olds.

Since you've been together so long it might make more sense to do the unity candle ceremony. You and the boys, or the entire family, could participate. It's a nice way to remind the children that you're a family and you're recommitting to one another. A wedding with all of the traditional roles might be confusing for the kids.

[Etiquette Now]

I agree that the unity candle would be a great option. But, they could also walk you two down the aisle as your escorts since this is a wedding.