[crisswell]

SO I met my husband when I was 12 and we have been together since then. When we graduated from high school we got married except our marriage was this...we had a get together at a zoo park 2 days before we went in front of a JP. This get together consisted of people gathered to eat no music, no dancing, no toasts, no nothing...We never had the money to do a real wedding and now that I'm losing a bunch of weight and we have nice jobs I am thinking about doing it right. I have no idea what to even do or where to start. I want to have a the whole thing as if we never were married so we can do everything we didn't get to do the first time, which is basically everything. I'm wondering if the whole idea is silly or if it would be ok to actually have a real wedding even though were already married. Help!!!
Some info on me now...were 24 so we have been married 6 years and we have 16 month old son. I don't need this to be right away I want to plan it for when I have lost all my weight. Any questions you may have just let me know. I really want it to be a perfect dream wedding.

[the_admin]

The problem with this idea is that a wedding is ceremony to marry a couple - and you're already married. I'm sorry that you didn't have the wedding of your dreams 6 years ago, that's a shame. But, it was a decision you made back then and now you're married 6 years and have a son! Congratulations! Don't look back at what you missed, or what you think you might have missed. Look at what you have and what can be in the future. Unfortunately, we're not always able to go back and recreate the past. Perhaps your post will encourage other young people to wait to have the wedding they want or to be content with getting married in the way they can afford to now.

I'd wait until you have a milestone anniversary and then host a vow renewal to celebrate.

We have lots of posts about this issue. Please use the search tool to find them or simply thumb through the pages of this forum and the website.

Happy Anniversary.

[Etiquette Now]

I agree. And, it would help very much if you would read the many posts on this subject.

Many, if not most, guests find a pretend wedding silly. So be very careful with your plans.