[Y2X]

I was married very young the first time. We're both in our 20's. It's my second wedding, his first, I have children. I had a small informal wedding the first time. I don't care if we do it that way again but I sense that both he and his family would like a big formal wedding. However, there have been some well meaning friends of his mother who have said things like "it's just an informal party, right?" "You're not wearing anything too formal, bridey or white are you?" "You're not going all out are you?" and "It should be kept small and informal when the bride is getting married for the second time". His sisters have said that they'll be really hurt if they aren't able to be bridesmaids at their brother's wedding and I really want them to be especially since I didn't have any bridesmaids the first time and I'm best friends with both of them.

I don't really care about MIL2B's friends but I don't want her to fall out with her friends either and I really don't want to disappoint my FamIL2B by not giving their son the opportunity to celebrate in a grand way. What do we do? We're paying. Actually I'm paying everything except photographer which will be a gift from my dad and his parents are paying for the music and our honeymoon.

[M. Giordano]

With the exception of wearing a wedding veil there are really no "rules" about second weddings. For as many people there are in the world, there are that many opinions pn how we should all conduct ourselves. These are THEIR OPINIONS, remember that.

Do what pleases you and your fiance.