[paulette]

Hi, me and my husband married when I was 19 and we had 3 children by the time I was 23. He was in the military and we were stationed over seas with no family at all. We had a lot of stress and much against us with no support. He was young and did not understand my needs and I did not understand his. We divorced at 25. I remarried within one month of the divorce to a man I had no idea what he was about. I just felt like at 25 and 3 children this would be my only hope. I lived in an abusive relationship for 16 years. My first husband also married twice trying to fulfill the loss of his family. 17 years later to our great surprise our son at 21 years of age joined the army. We met again at that time and sparks flew. We have realized we were young and dumb and lived with much regret for years. Our kids suffered and we now want to fix it. Mal 2:14 was my husbands verse that said we needed to be together. Its just awesome how God works. Our entire family is so happy. We want to make the wedding a celebration but I don't want to look like its my first time since we both have been married since. I want it to be elegant and special. Any ideas on the dress and everything else? Thanks

[the_admin]

I agree that you have something to celebrate. Though, you haven't mentioned how long the two of you have known each other, so I hope you give the relationship a bit of time to blossom and grow. You have had experience with the rushed relationship and have seen the outcome. If it's love, it will wait.

This entire site is all about getting married when it's not your first time. The questions you have are natural, and the answers can be found within the page of the website. There is a lot of information so take some time to read through. If you still have questions that have not been answered before in this forum or in the pages of the website, please feel welcome to come back and post a new question.

[Alyssa Johnson]

Hi Paulette,

Congratulations and welcome! I would have to agree with the administrator of the forums. I hope that the two of you are taking things slow. Yes, you loved one another before, but you also decided not to be together as well. I understand that felt like a lifetime ago and both of you have "grown up."

There's a lot on the line this time. I'm sure your kids are ecstatic! The last thing you want to do is rush things and end up divorcing again. I encourage you to research preparing for this marriage, just as much as you research what to wear and how to do the wedding. Remember, the wedding lasts a day - the marriage, impacts a lifetime.

Best wishes and success!