[dlivingston]

I have been common law married for 8 years, but it is not legal as far as a marriage license or having been married in a church. Can we have a 2nd wedding?

[Etiquette Now]

Dear Dlivingston,

I'm confused. You want a second wedding, but haven't married legally? If you haven't married each other, but only lived with each other, then you can be legally married. That would be a first wedding, not a second. But, if you are legally married, then you couldn't get married again to the same person without a divorce some where in between.

Please note that your guests may not be receptive to giving expensive gifts to those who have been living as husband and wife for years even though you weren't married. You might want to opt for a less lavish affair.

Best wishes,

[dlivingston]

We aren't asking for gifts etc. Just want to have a simple ceremony by a pastor or minister. We are considered common law married in the state of SC, but have not been legally married by a JOP or minister.

[the_admin]

My advice would be for a blessing of the marriage ceremony or, if you're Catholic, a Convalidation ceremony. We have two articles on both of those ceremonies right here on this website. Please use the left navigation to locate them.