[Rette2tango]

This is the second marriage for both of us. We are being married ocean front on the veranda at a beach house with 50 guests at 5:30 and then moving to a club to a buffet/dancing reception for 150 guests. I have a dress which has 2 skirts: one with an extensive train--bustleable--for the ceremony and will change into a dance skirt for the reception. Groom and attendants wearing tuxes. Should I keep the train extended or bustle it for the ceremony? It is a ballgown. I have a birdcage 12" veil with feather headpiece? Is this deemed appropriate?

[Etiquette Now]

Dear Rette2tango,

I'm not the fashion expert, so I don't know where to bustle and not. There isn't any thing "etiquettely" incorrect about it. But, there is a concern about your veil. Yours is very similar to a "blusher" veil. These are reserved for first time brides.

Best wishes,

[the_admin]

A train may or not be appropriate for a second wedding. It depends on the formality of the wedding and the age and circumstances of the bride. It seems as though your wedding is pretty formal since the groom is wearing a tuxedo and it is being held after 5:30, but there is more to determining formality that that. Use your best judgement when it comes to selecting a dress for a second marriage. A birdcage veil can be tricky. Be sure it doesn't resemble a blusher veil, reserved for young, first time brides.