[movinon]

I am in a serious relationship with a man who is a widower. He has been married twice and ours will be his third wedding, while it is my first wedding. I don't want a big fancy wedding but would like something special that's not just a repeat of his other two weddings. His family all live in another city and he doesn't think they would come to his wedding. Both of my parents are deceased so I have no family to speak of either. I would appreciate some advice on how to plan a special wedding that will be memorable for both of us.

[the_admin]

I understand that since you have never had a wedding that you would like it to be very special. But, that doesn't necessary have to mean traditional or loads of guests. My initial response would be to suggest a destination wedding on a tropical beach somewhere really exotic. But, if you're not into the beach scene, perhaps select a romantic spot of your choice like the Smoky Mountains of TN or Colorado's Grand Canyon. Since I don't know where you live, I can only make suggestions for places I know but I'm sure you can use these suggestions to spark your imagination.

Write your own vows, select special outfits and be sure to take a video and lots of photos. Small weddings like these don't have to be uneventful.

Let us know what you chose and how it worked out.

[Etiquette Now]

I couldn't agree more. Just use what you know about yourselves in your planning.